Rupture & Repairintermediate
"You Don't Actually Care"
Repair the alliance after a client says you're only in it for the money.
The situation
I am the therapist. My client has just said I clearly do not care about them and that this is only a job to me. I need to resist explaining myself, acknowledge what they are feeling, and explore what happened between us that led here.
Who you will be talking to: Angry Client
They'll test whether you get defensive. Explaining yourself early reads as self-protection rather than accountability.
What tends to work
- Acknowledge the impact before explaining yourself
- Own your part without collapsing into over-apology
- Get curious: "What was it like when I…?"
One way to open: “I think something happened between us, and I'd like to understand it before we go anywhere else.”
Say it out loud, then see what you said
Reading about a hard conversation is not the same as having it. You talk to an AI counterpart by voice, like a phone call, and afterwards get a scorecard that quotes your own words: what helped, and what to try next time.
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