Silence & Withdrawalintermediate
Silent Since I Asked About Drinking
Repair after a question about alcohol lands as judgment.
The situation
I am the therapist. Since I asked how much they had been drinking my client has barely spoken. I need to acknowledge that my question may have landed as judgment, tolerate the silence, and find a way back that keeps the door open.
Who you will be talking to: Withdrawn Client
Expect one-word answers and long pauses. Rushing or filling the silence reads as pressure and keeps them shut down.
What tends to work
- Let silence sit — don't rush to fill it
- Reflect tentatively: "I notice it got quiet after I asked that"
- Ask permission to wonder aloud rather than interpreting outright
One way to open: “We can take this at whatever pace feels okay. I'm not in a hurry.”
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